Unsure about marriage?

[ares1000]

How do you know when you're ready for marriage?

I'm at that stage now where I and the family are 'scouting', but I am not sure if I am ready. I mean, yes- the physical thing is important but one need not be married for that.

Part of me likes the idea of a wife, a home...but part of me doesnt like the sound of commitment, increased obligations and leaving home [having to get my own apartment].

I am in 2 minds, elders, please advise me.

[violet_may]

Get your PhD first bro, who wants to marry a dropout? :yk

[ares1000]

I have 2 degrees already. But yes, I was thinking career first then marriage. But I'll be 28 in May 2012. Seems the right age, but unsure if I am ready.

Make sense?

[ares1000]

I am quite successful with the ladies...the haram pov isnt a huge issue for me, but family respect is.

I am in a confused state.

[Qelic]

I suggest U decide on PhD thing first ... make a life ... settled one ... like u can tell someone what u do .. not what u r planning to do or would like to do ... gather ur life then think if u can manage such a responsibility ...

and if u 27 then get married soon ... u r running late ...

[ares1000]

What if I'm not psychologically ready for a commitment?

I could always go 'home' and wed in the spring, but that's not my preferred option.

[Qelic]

... I am not a very experienced person myself , but if u r not ready then

either make urself ready because u have less margin left in terms of age , I believe in carrying out everything at right times in life ... not a single day should be wasted ... probably thats just me

or u just say goodbye to this thought for atleast 2 + years from now on

but all of this if u stand firm today on what do u want from life ...

[ares1000]

The issue is I have met a great girl...but as a student/ freelance worker, I am in no position to support a wife comfortably. I could try to get a postponement in any potential marriage...

[UP]

My close friend faced a similar situation, he was 28 and single. Full time engineering student. I advised him to delay his marriage till he finishes his education and finds a decent job.

He went on and got married in May 2011. Today, to make a long story short he is struggling to pay for her sponsorship fee, plus a child is on his way. I don't know how he will manage his stress.

Ask yourself an honest question: Are you ready?

If it is Yes - go ahead. If it is No - then waiting for the right time is the best option.

[Qelic]

cant u get a year long leave ? ... i mean we have this option here ... many certified bozos disappear for 2-3 years then appear back ... and are allowed to return to their work lol

well u see my man , U should first settle ur life in a way it should be ... sit down and think properly over what u should have at ur age ... then make a list of what u lack ... After data collection , evaluate and asess ur lacking(s) and how many of them can be covered in an year or so ... in that way u can get the idea if u r ready to take that responsibility ...

marriage can be a serious burden too ... esp when u dont get support from ur significant other which ironically happens in most cases .

[W63L35]

Get your PhD first bro, who wants to marry a dropout? :yk

Mrs. Bill Gates and Mrs. Steve Jobs. :P

[ares1000]

Thanks for all the advice guys, I will do an evaluation and keep you informed.

[Poison]

Lol at 'scouting' :))

[ares1000]

What would you describe it as?

[Love Pakistan]

Knowledge is power bro... And once you have power... You can do anything... Dont quit studies right now... Dont even take off some time to marry and then come back... Just finish up your studies and geta job. Then marry the one you like... Life will be much easier... You just gotta be smart in deciding whats beneficial!

[SAF]

I have 2 degrees already. But yes, I was thinking career first then marriage. But I'll be 28 in May 2012. Seems the right age, but unsure if I am ready.

Make sense?

and what are those two degrees? :misbah

Why not just look for a secure job first?

[UP]

My dad married at the age of 38 after securing all of his business. Today, he is a successful man with no major worries. He delayed his marriage until he achieved what he wanted.

Last week - my uncle involved in major Pakistan politics got married at the age of 45!

[UP]

I know a friend of my father is getting married at the age 42 next month.

[Itachi]

My close friend faced a similar situation, he was 28 and single. Full time engineering student. I advised him to delay his marriage till he finishes his education and finds a decent job.

He went on and got married in May 2011. Today, to make a long story short he is struggling to pay for her sponsorship fee, plus a child is on his way. I don't know how he will manage his stress.

Ask yourself an honest question: Are you ready?

If it is Yes - go ahead. If it is No - then waiting for the right time is the best option.

top post.

And who says if you are 28, you are running out of time? If you aren't mentally ready, why carry a beggage and destroy other peoples life?

[Cover Drive]

One guy at my club is 28 too and he did same thing and I would call it a stupid move. He hasn't completed his education, his parents told him not to get married etc but he stopped his education, left his house and got married.

He is an idiot but his life so I can not say anything to him as its his life.

Personally I don't wish to marry :)) If I do then I want to have at least a six figures bank balance and settled life.

[Momo]

You are never "ready" for marriage. You have to adapt to the new life no matter what. There are of course situations where the economic conditions simply doesn't allow one to get married but barring that, the earlier you do it the better.

[Cover Drive]

More information on marriage one should contact either Oxy Bhai or Momo Bhai they are expert in this matter :)) ;-)

[Momo]

More information on marriage one should contact either Oxy Bhai or Momo Bhai they are expert in this matter :)) ;-)
:inzi

Yaar it needs at least three four marriages (at least) to be an expert. I am only in my first so am at best an eager student. :hafeez

[Cover Drive]

:inzi

Yaar it needs at least three four marriages (at least) to be an expert. I am only in my first so am at best an eager student. :hafeez

Jaisa Afridi waisay hi shahdaee uskay ;-):)):afridi

Hummay aik ka bhi shouq nahi hai aur appko teen-char?;-) #LegendMomoAlltheway:))

[Harper]

Are there no girls on PP?:D

[Tera Gawaandi]

In the last year or so, three of my close friends have got married. I'm marrying next month, its arranged marriage. The very first girl I saw! She's Registered Nurse (RN). Earlier I was also hesitant now I feel relaxed, no more 'tu shaadi kab karega' kinda questions.

[Momo]

In the last year or so, three of my close friends have got married. I'm marrying next month, its arranged marriage. The very first girl I saw! She's Registered Nurse (RN). Earlier I was also hesitant now I feel relaxed, no more 'tu shaadi kab karega' kinda questions.
Best of luck to the two of you. May you be happy always.

[kingusama92]

Marriage seems like something you should go into without any uncertainty. It's not just your life, it's your partner's life that is effected, as well.

The fact you used the term "unsure" should tell you what you should do.

Whatever you do, do it with conviction. :)

[ares1000]

and what are those two degrees? :misbah

Why not just look for a secure job first?

BA in History

MA in International Relations.

[ares1000]

Marriage seems like something you should go into without any uncertainty. It's not just your life, it's your partner's life that is effected, as well.

The fact you used the term "unsure" should tell you what you should do.

Whatever you do, do it with conviction. :)

I was thinking along similar lines.

Would an arranged marriage from Pk be easier for me?

[Statsman]

I am quite successful with the ladies...the haram pov isnt a huge issue for me, but family respect is.

I am in a confused state.

now where have i read this before? :ryankhan :P

[Momo]

I was thinking along similar lines.

Would an arranged marriage from Pk be easier for me?
It may or may not be easier for you, but it will certainly be unfair for the poor girl.

Considering the fact that you are "quite successful with the ladies" and "the haram pov isnt a huge issue" for you, to be fair you should find a girl who has also been quite successful with gentlemen and for whom the haram pov hasn't been a huge issue.

[in_cutter]

OP- If you are unsure (which you clearly are), do not marry.

[ares1000]

I see.

[Zaz]

OP- If you are unsure (which you clearly are), do not marry.

x2 Dont mess with some1s life Only marry if u are 100% certain its what u want n u will try ur best to keep her happy

Otherwise dont!

[JellyBro]

In this economy a good degree isn't going to get you your dream job. Connections will. But that's besides the point...
If you live a western lifestyle than marriage shouldn't be on your priority list. However, if you're asking for an opinion based on our religious and cultural guidelines than it's best to get married before you turn 30.

Think of it this way, when your're young you can do 10X more things than when your'e in your 40s and 50s. You can avoid the commitment for a certain amount of time but eventually you know you'll be getting married. So it's up to you to decide if you want to take on the responsibilities when you're young or push them off until you've reached an age where doing simple chores feel laborsome...

[Wasim_Waqar]

I am currently at that stage. Still gotta (somehow) buy a house...girls these days, especially one I might marry, don't like to live with in-laws.

It's really tricky.

[Ryankhan]

i think you should have your own business and you should be good financially and then you should go for the wedding as 26-27 is perfect age for wedding.....well i think you should go for it because as you say your scared of commitments and stuff so you cant really tell unless you havent experrience it. so you should go for the wedding. if its love marriage that would be more easy and good for you or else arranged will do it aswell but it will take bit time to get to know each other.

[Looney]

can you support a family if you get married ? does the girl work ? would she want to or would you let her work post marriage ?


i have a friend who is 25 and married , his wife also studying but both work as well . some want to wait till they are at a certain point of their career .

so it comes down to what you and the girl want .

[ares1000]

The most pressing issue atm is finding a girl who is a proper Sunni [Barelvi]. Too many girls I get on with here are too far from the deen.

I will chat to my family about it.

[Qelic]

The most pressing issue atm is finding a girl who is a proper Sunni [Barelvi]. Too many girls I get on with here are too far from the deen.

I will chat to my family about it.

is barelvism a must for u or is it because of family ?

[Desi_Joker]

i think you should have your own business and you should be good financially and then you should go for the wedding as 26-27 is perfect age for wedding.....well i think you should go for it because as you say your scared of commitments and stuff so you cant really tell unless you havent experrience it. so you should go for the wedding. if its love marriage that would be more easy and good for you or else arranged will do it aswell but it will take bit time to get to know each other.

Experience bola :))

[SAF]

i think you should have your own business and you should be good financially and then you should go for the wedding as 26-27 is perfect age for wedding.....well i think you should go for it because as you say your scared of commitments and stuff so you cant really tell unless you havent experrience it. so you should go for the wedding. if its love marriage that would be more easy and good for you or else arranged will do it aswell but it will take bit time to get to know each other.

The expert has spoken.















(this is the last guy you want an advise from, OP)

[ares1000]

is barelvism a must for u or is it because of family ?

Given that is it simply the reference to classical Islam in the Subcontinent, ask Sh. Mohammed Al Yaqoobi, it is a must for me and for family.

[Qelic]

Given that is it simply the reference to classical Islam in the Subcontinent, ask Sh. Mohammed Al Yaqoobi, it is a must for me and for family.

hmmm ....

[Khan6575]

hmmm ....

Off topic,

Qelic, what does the name Arsalan mean in farsi, I know in urdu it means lion but need the farsi meaning if there is one. Much appreciated.

[akheR]

Off topic,

Qelic, what does the name Arsalan mean in farsi, I know in urdu it means lion but need the farsi meaning if there is one. Much appreciated.

It means lion, and basically it is in farsi.

My name. :afridi

[Khan6575]

It means lion, and basically it is in farsi.

My name. :afridi

Thanks man, nice name.

[ares1000]

Isnt Arsalan from Lion, Witch and the Wardrobe?

[Qelic]

Off topic,

Qelic, what does the name Arsalan mean in farsi, I know in urdu it means lion but need the farsi meaning if there is one. Much appreciated.

Lion is Arslan in Faarsi ..... Aslan in Toruk ( turkish )... Shair is also Lion in Faarsi ( Urdu borrowed it ) ... while common belief is that Aslan itself came from Persian Arslan ... toroks were nomads and was hard for them to put "rrrr" in ... so they made it aslan ... simple ....Its a very common persian name of modern era .

check out this Persian Legend named Amir Arslan Namdar

http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Amir_Arsalan

i have a close cousin named Arslan

[baalti]

bhai sahib mein kehta hoon khaa loh ladooo.... aur phir bhugtoo....

btw, just curious, on one end everyone sings tunes of equality, and on the other end you say be on your feet to support your partner, why can't it be the other way, why do guys have to make sure they provide for the girls, girls should have jobs and be able to make healthy/financial contributions aswell, not just the guy... so why the double standards, freedom bhi chahiyey aur kaam bhi nahin karnay... wah ji wah... you go work, i'll do the damn dishes...

[Salma_T]

no one is ever " ready" for marriage and all this nonsense I need x amount in the bank etc before I marry is total BS if we all thought like that no one get married!

You marry because you want to share your life with someone (not because society\parents dictate it)

[Qelic]

no one is ever " ready" for marriage and all this nonsense I need x amount in the bank etc before I marry is total BS if we all thought like that no one get married!

You marry because you want to share your life with someone (not because society\parents dictate it)

Totally agree ...

thats y i prefer , early the better , policy ... 25-26 maximum for me .

[ares1000]

Which this line of thinking, its 2012 for me.

FTR, is that Ahmad Shah Masood in your avatar?

[Qelic]

Sher e Panjshir ... The Afghan Lion ... Iftekhaar e Afghan ... What a Great man ..

[ares1000]

Lets agree to disagree. :D

[Qelic]

yeah man ... i know ... lol

[akhrot]

if you are unsure about marriage, don't jump into it, afterall marriage involves two people, and your partner wouldn't want to be stuck in a loveless marriage. :sohail

[ares1000]

But my game is on point.

I handle my biz (there I is), major pain like Damien Wayans, low down dirty even, like his brother Kenan.

:D

[Looney]

what is a barelvi ?

anything to do with bareli ka bazaar ? you know like that song jhumka gira re bareli ke bazaar maiN :kami

[ares1000]

Its just someone who follows the guidance of classical Alhe Sunnah scholarship in SA region. The pinnacle being Imam Ahmad Rida Khan Barelvi.

[namak]

The most pressing issue atm is finding a girl who is a proper Sunni . [B]Too many girls I get on with here are too far from the deen.



Someone more knowledgeable can correct me if I am wrong, but isnt the correct islamic(deendar) way to meet a woman is in the presence of a mahram? Keeping that in mind, girls that you "get on with here" dont really qualify at all :)

[ares1000]

Sin is wrong, but my aqeeda is correct. I should not sin, but I am weak. However, too many girls I have met dont have correct aqeeda. One [whose folks I had spoken with] thought Islam and kufr were equal. I had to jet away from such a she-demon man.

[ares1000]

I dont care if my wife practises so much, but firm belief in Islam as Haq is key.

[akheR]

If you'll marry with a Muslim girl from Pakistan and even North India, there are 99% chances that she'll be Barelwi; Deobandi school of thought is more based in central Indian Muslims.

[ares1000]

I know. Correct aqeeda is important.

[leggie786]

Totally depends what you want in life man. If you have less wealth but willing to commit to marriage (having a family etc.), i am telling u that the stress you get from the looking for a job will be OVERSHADOWED by the love, feeling and completeness you will get by being with your wife.

Atleast i feel that way.

PS. I am not married

[from_da_lost_dim3nsion]

It may or may not be easier for you, but it will certainly be unfair for the poor girl.

Considering the fact that you are "quite successful with the ladies" and "the haram pov isnt a huge issue" for you, to be fair you should find a girl who has also been quite successful with gentlemen and for whom the haram pov hasn't been a huge issue.
lmao... (my terrible attempt to Punjabi) ki gal kitti aye, dil jeet lya ayee zaalimmaan ..

[from_da_lost_dim3nsion]

On a serious note: I wasn;ts ure about getting married about2 yrs ago and Mashallah its been the best decision on my life.Totally arranged marriage too (not from pakistan though) .I can;t tell you the peace of mind you get when you get married to the right girl.

[Savak]

The fact and reality of life is that you have to provide for your wife, the guy is the main bread earner of the family and the lives of his kids, their future lands squarely on his shoulders. Marriage is not something someone should do just because society demands you to do so, it should be for the right reasons and logically speaking when you are in a position to support yourself and another person.

I have a couple of friends who tied the knott in excitement after finding the girls of their dreams, failing to differentiate b/w lust, initial attraction and the real thing, now i hear them complaining about the day to day stresses that come with it, the compromises they are forced to make, how they envy their single friends for having no responsibilities and being free to do what they want and how they have no idea about problems, pressures, responsibilities that come in life.

I show them no sympathy and frankly remind them that since they made their bed, they better sleep in it and stop lashing out at others for decisions they made. Bottomline if u marry, marry for the right reasons.

[Savak]

bhai sahib mein kehta hoon khaa loh ladooo.... aur phir bhugtoo....

btw, just curious, on one end everyone sings tunes of equality, and on the other end you say be on your feet to support your partner, why can't it be the other way, why do guys have to make sure they provide for the girls, girls should have jobs and be able to make healthy/financial contributions aswell, not just the guy... so why the double standards, freedom bhi chahiyey aur kaam bhi nahin karnay... wah ji wah... you go work, i'll do the damn dishes...

Have to agree with this. Some girls i see just take it for granted and take unfair advantage of the fact that they are not expected to be the main bread earners of the family.

I remember speaking to a 33 year old divorcee with 3-4 kids doing her MBA in my batch and she used to regret her non serious, casual attitude towards studies, education back in her prime days.

[ares1000]

If I marry and it doesnt work out, I can get a divorce.

[from_da_lost_dim3nsion]

If I marry and it doesnt work out, I can get a divorce.

If that's the case then you don't have anything to worry about.Go ahead and get married.while you are at it buy a mansion by the lake side, hey if you cant pay the mortgage you can just declare bankruptcy :)

[ares1000]

You know what I meant.

[kingusama92]

If I marry and it doesnt work out, I can get a divorce.

If you go into it with that line of thinking, the marriage will most likely be unsuccessful.

Just from a selfish point of view, you will be wasting years of your life because...

A) You weren't willing to make the sacrifices required.
B) You didn't look hard enough for who you wanted to spend the rest of your life with.
C) You never were serious about the marriage and just wanted the physical bonding.

Don't make a bad decision now and waste those years of your life.

Divorce is the LAST step. It's something we all hope never falls upon us cause it ruins families and just isn't a pleasant experience. Best to do your due diligence prior to your marriage for everyone's sake. :)

Just get it right the first time. Gotta go into the marriage thinking "we will live together forever regardless of potential downs that will come in life". Sounds corny, but it really has to be a person's mindset otherwise a divorce is probably around the corner even before things get started. :))

[ares1000]

How do you know what you want in a wife?

Sometimes I think I want a sophisticated summer ball going, Bach listening OC kinda gal.

Other days, a decent home maker, raise kids and be cool kinda wife.

[kingusama92]

How do you know what you want in a wife?

Sometimes I think I want a sophisticated summer ball going, Bach listening OC kinda gal.

Other days, a decent home maker, raise kids and be cool kinda wife.

Only you can decide that one. I suppose a mix of both is ideal (now that's my opinion :)) ).

Make sure you are the one who decides, though. Gotta love the people who let their parents choose and lay all the blame on them when things get rough.

Makes a mockery out of the process and is sad for the parents, as well.

[violet_may]

You won't find someone with all the qualities you are looking for, that's unreasonable unless you get really lucky. Only you know what you want in a person, we can't tell you the answer as you most likely have different preferences. The biggest thing I would look for is the person's thinking. There has to be some synchrony in both your ideals, and in things that govern your values. Can that person fit into the picture? Or will they clash with who you are? Are they flexible or rigid in their beliefs? At least start off at this point I would say.

[ares1000]

Such a mix is ideal, but probably impossible to find.

[ares1000]

You won't find someone with all the qualities you are looking for, that's unreasonable unless you get really lucky. Only you know what you want in a person, we can't tell you the answer as you most likely have different preferences. The biggest thing I would look for is the person's thinking. There has to be some synchrony in both your ideals, and in things that govern your values. Can that person fit into the picture? Or will they clash with who you are? At least start off at this point I would say.

I havent been able to pinpoint what I want with any certainty.

[Momo]

Sometimes I think I want a sophisticated summer ball going, Bach listening OC kinda gal.

Other days, a decent home maker, raise kids and be cool kinda wife.
You clearly want two ladies. Marry two. :inzi

[ares1000]

I cant find one. :lol

[from_da_lost_dim3nsion]

I havent been able to pinpoint what I want with any certainty.

shaadionline.com . May you can write a paper about the kind of wife you are looking for and they can order one custom made just for you :wahab

[ares1000]

Lulz.

If only it was that simple.

Sometimes I think I should find girl type 1 for marriage now, ensure no kids and then in my latter 30's, divorce and then find girl type 2.

Immoral?

[hokie]

Wow, is this lucky lady going to be aware of the fact that you will be leaving her once you're ready for a family?

[ares1000]

Obviously not. Truth is I am unable to be that calculating.

I'm good at school, I've always got good grades. I have limited 'life' intelligence. :(

[violet_may]

I thought you said you had experience with the ladies? Clearly, you are a bit more 'life' intelligent than you are making it out to be :yk

[ares1000]

Macking and making good long term choices are not the same thing. If I am in a bar, I am confident, I can ask a lady out no issue...store clerk, classmate whatever, but ask me to plan for my future and I cant settle.

[ares1000]

Long term life doesnt involve sitting in a [student] bar until 1am getting nice with some dutch chick you met 3 hours prior [I think].

[PakPrince]

you make the thread wierder every post OP

[kingusama92]

Long term life doesnt involve sitting in a [student] bar until 1am getting nice with some dutch chick you met 3 hours prior [I think].

Well, it can if you want. :akhtar

[abdulhafeez306]

Career first man. If not at least a plan that you know will give you and your wife a decent living.

As far as wife is concerned, you won't find what you're looking for in a club unless you don't mind her being non-Pakistani.

Finally, ask your dad. Moms fall for all types of girls but your dad will tell you in an instant if the girl is right for you or not.

And 28, you should get married soon.

[baalti]

stop looking for one, just marry anyone, coz after marriage they all become fat aunties.... so what's with all the tension...

+ on a serious note, you will get the respect as much as you dish it out, izat do izat loh... respect/honesty/trust play big parts in a relationship everything else falls into place... + jitna shakal soorat peh jao gey, utna hi pashtaoo gey, go for her traits, and stop treating people like vegies....

[baalti]

on a side note: i think this is RyanKhan back stronger, meaner, and more confused.... :facepalm

[Legal Eye]

I love being married but I do think Asian parents put pressure on getting married too young. anything under 28 is too young in this day and age.

[ares1000]

I will be 28 in May 2012.

Bumped into a high school associate today who has been married for a year. Seems everyone is married but me.

[Zaz]

stop looking for one, just marry anyone, coz after marriage they all become fat aunties.... so what's with all the tension...

+ on a serious note, you will get the respect as much as you dish it out, izat do izat loh... respect/honesty/trust play big parts in a relationship everything else falls into place... + jitna shakal soorat peh jao gey, utna hi pashtaoo gey, go for her traits, and stop treating people like vegies....

great post

[Salazar]

Best of luck to the two of you. May you be happy always.

For that, may she be happy always.

[ares1000]

If she becomes too fat, I would just replace her.

[Zaz]

If she becomes too fat, I would just replace her.

Based on above comment I think its best u dont get married

Will she be able to replace u if u get fat 2?

[violet_may]

Makes sense to me, people who get fat after marriage is pretty much equivalent to deception. I too would replace the person if they got fat or bald.

[Looney]

Its just someone who follows the guidance of classical Alhe Sunnah scholarship in SA region. The pinnacle being Imam Ahmad Rida Khan Barelvi.

Lulz.

If only it was that simple.

Sometimes I think I should find girl type 1 for marriage now, ensure no kids and then in my latter 30's, divorce and then find girl type 2.

Immoral?

Allah khair karay :moyo

[kingusama92]

Makes sense to me, people who get fat after marriage is pretty much equivalent to deception. I too would replace the person if they got fat or bald.

I'd even replace them if they age. :murali

[Looney]

I'd even replace them if they age. :murali

you no like polygamy ? :amir

[kingusama92]

you no like polygamy ? :amir

Why polygamy?

Just replace. One at a time. :akhtar

[Looney]

just do a muttah then

[violet_may]

Absolutely, can't believe I forgot about the aging factor, the biggest deception. Thanks for the excellent reminder KU. I expect my spouse to stay static for as long as I am married to them, if they change even a little not to my liking, they will totally get the boot.

[Looney]

Absolutely, can't believe I forgot about the aging factor, the biggest deception. Thanks for the excellent reminder KU. I expect my spouse to stay static for as long as I am married to them, if they change even a little not to my liking, they will totally get the boot.


:ibutt - only man who never gets old

[violet_may]

^

:))) :))) :)))

[ares1000]

Based on above comment I think its best u dont get married

Will she be able to replace u if u get fat 2?

You forget that according to Japanese tradition, a man of means should be a bit portly.

[Momo]

Absolutely, can't believe I forgot about the aging factor, the biggest deception. Thanks for the excellent reminder KU. I expect my spouse to stay static for as long as I am married to them, if they change even a little not to my liking, they will totally get the boot.
:misbah : As static as a corpse
:afridi : So dynamic that he doesn't age (relativity etc)

[ares1000]

Also, you forget the words of Christopher.

Heart throb never, fat and ugly as ever, however, I stay coochied down to the socks....

[Desi_Joker]

OP... Kahin aap Ryankhan ke bichare hue bhai to nahi, jo ke bachpan main koom ke mele me gum ho gaye the? :ekdin

[violet_may]

:misbah : As static as a corpse
:afridi : So dynamic that he doesn't age (relativity etc)

:)))

Well, well, isn't this a delightful little conundrum? Tough choice this, Momo. Tough choice. But, I must say, I am not one of those who get easily persuaded by the sight of unchanging and eternal, thick silky strands of hair.


OP... Kahin aap Ryankhan ke bichare hue bhai to nahi, jo ke bachpan main koom ke mele me gum ho gaye the? :ekdin

:))) :)))

[Warfare]

Why all the fat hate? :shahzaib

[violet_may]

Why? Are you fat Warfare?

[Warfare]

Why? Are you fat Warfare?

No but fat friends and fat wives can be cool :shahzaib

[violet_may]

So you have a fat wife Warfare? It's best we don't discuss why this can be 'cool', me being a Mod and all now.

[Warfare]

So you have a fat wife Warfare? It's best we don't discuss why this can be 'cool', me being a Mod and all now.

Nah, still young. You must admit though, fat friends can at least be funny :shahzaib

[ares1000]

No but fat friends and fat wives can be cool :shahzaib

As my boy M.E.T.H.O.D. says "more cushion for the pushin'".

[Qelic]

On a serious note: I wasn;ts ure about getting married about2 yrs ago and Mashallah its been the best decision on my life.Totally arranged marriage too (not from pakistan though) .I can;t tell you the peace of mind you get when you get married to the right girl.

totally agree

[ares1000]

Qelic, are you married?

[Qelic]

so ares my man ... what have u extracted from this thread ? any valuable advise ?

[ares1000]

(1) Make sure I get married before too long.

(2) Try to find a girl with whom I could spend many years, maybe life.

[Qelic]

(1) Make sure I get married before too long.

(2) Try to find a girl with whom I could spend many years, maybe life.

must do it quickly , in an year or so ... i dont know what others have to say but ... in my eyes , such an experience must be enjoyed in full youth .