The 4 wives rule!

[Mercenary]

I know that in Islam we are allowed to marry upto 4 women but how many guys here would actually marry more than one if they had the means?

Personally i think one is adequate!

What about the girls? How many would want to be 'one of' your husbands wives instead 'the wife'

[catwoman]

I want to be the one and only. Would never be able to stand another woman.

[Hash]

one....just one. Absolutely no chance of me marrying more than one.

[Saj]

one is enough - I tell ya !

[Geordie Ahmed]

I say one is enough BUT . . .

I have heard of many ppl lately (mainly in their 50's and 60's ) getting married again. AND im sure these ppl if they were asked 30 years ago they would have said one is enough SO all i can say is never say never

[entralinks]

Well its like asking a criminal how many times would you like to be hanged, one or four? Of course the last three don't matter, the first one does the job, very well.

[Geordie Ahmed]

good analogy entra :oD :oD :oD

[Mercenary]

Originally Posted by entralinks Well its like asking a criminal how many times would you like to be hanged, one or four? Of course the last three don't matter, the first one does the job, very well.

QOTW!!

[sy]

sum women "read" my hand and sed i wud hav 4 wives.
But no, one wive is one too many as it is!

[sajjad]

4 and i;d like to have the oppurtunity to satisy all four every night ....i think i can!

[razzler]

One is enough.

[MIG]

Interesting you mentioned it, I have just recieved an invite to attend the 2nd concurrent marriage of a good Saudi friend of mine - apparently the senior wife will also be present......

[MIG]

Do you not have enough issues in ones life - why would you go and get another wife and get ANOTHER set of in laws !!!

The Saudi King person marries 4 at a time ( thus not violating any Islamic principles ) to unite the tribes of Arabia ( yeah right ) so if you can come up with a justification like that ( i.e. I am uniting the clans from London and Birmingham etc ) , I would say dont even mention that to your existing spouse....

[Oxy]

I wouldnt mind trying a 2nd wife (as an experiment of course)

There is nothing wrong with the 1st one, but I get curious!

The flip side is that your 1st wife may put up with your inadequecies/bad habits-wife number 2 may not be so willing to accept any deficiencies!!!

On 2nd thoughts-1 is enough!

[Schiller]

after 50, the second and third should be an option indeed provided you have money, why not? at that age, im sure one can handle a second and if not then the wife should divorce you and marry again really for being such a poor excuse of a guy :-D

[sy]

does ur first wife have 2 accept ur decision, or is that one of the catches.

[sy]

thats regarding getin another wife or maybe another 3 if u like.

[Oxy]

You dont need your wifes permission.

I already have permission- just can't find the right person

[pakdesi]

the main thing is being just and giving exactly the same u give to ur first wife wich is very hard thses days
but its good if helping someone in need like widows

[Schiller]

no permission required in Islam

[MIG]

Originally Posted by oXy bhai You dont need your wifes permission. I already have permission- just can't find the right person

Actually, not informing the other wives is a grounds for divorce with her and the Islamic court will grant a divorce - local clergy have informed me .

[Schiller]

You might have to inform mig but you dont have to get consent

[Oxy]

1st wives tend to do all they can to keep hold of hubby. Very few go for divorce.

[MIG]

Originally Posted by oXy bhai 1st wives tend to do all they can to keep hold of hubby. Very few go for divorce.

Looks like a lot of thought by some on this forum....when is the party ??

[Oxy]

Forget about wife No.2,3 or 4.

The growing phenomenam in Unis in UK is good Muslim girl meets good Muslim boy.

They realise they cannot really enter a haraam relationship (fornication), so they get married.

Then they lead a secret married life for 3-4 years until the course is over-at no stage do they ever live together (to avoid being caught out).

Apart from that they live a FULL married life.

Then after the course is over, the guy Islamically divorces her-and they go back to their lives...careers...marriage with others.

Apart from 'niyaat' (i.e they know they will get divorced in 4 years), I cannot see anything wrong with it.

Personally, if they really love each other-how can they divorce? Must be heart breaking!

Originally Posted by Schiller You might have to inform mig but you dont have to get consent

I think you need consent Umar.

Having 1, 2 or 4 wives depends completely on the cultural norms. I am not familiar with Saudi culture but I believe it was considered a source of pride at one time to have multiple wives/mistresses. To me the 4 wives rule doesnt apply to us but to those cultures in which men find it an ego boost to have multiple mistresses. Islam just makes it legal and gives the wives proper rights...as opposed to mistresses that have none.

[entralinks]

Originally Posted by oXy bhai Forget about wife No.2,3 or 4. The growing phenomenam in Unis in UK is good Muslim girl meets good Muslim boy. They realise they cannot really enter a haraam relationship (fornication), so they get married. Then they lead a secret married life for 3-4 years until the course is over-at no stage do they ever live together (to avoid being caught out). Apart from that they live a FULL married life. Then after the course is over, the guy Islamically divorces her-and they go back to their lives...careers...marriage with others. Apart from 'niyaat' (i.e they know they will get divorced in 4 years), I cannot see anything wrong with it. Personally, if they really love each other-how can they divorce? Must be heart breaking!

If this is what I understood it to be, you must be joking yaar! |-K

[Oxy]

Consent definately NOT required. Its probably Recommended if you want to receive any further 'goodies' from wife no.1 !!!

[Schiller]

no atys, no consent required per Islam but under pakistani law, consent is requred due to feminist nonsense. ISlam doesnt ask of it.

[Schiller]

that ppost there oxy about lmarriage to fornicate, isnt that very close to mutah?

[Oxy]

Dont know the ins and outs of 'mutah' marriage.

Maybe the 'internet generation' have decided to repackage Mutah into a more legally permissable form of marriage.

Also, I think mutah means 'tempoarary' for maybe hours or days...whereas the new agers make it last for the duration of the course.

Khair-no longer something I need to worry about!

[Mercenary]

muta is a marriage contract which expires after a set period. Its not allowed in Sunni Islam but is still quite popular amongst Shia.

Seems quite a handy solution to todays lifestyle actually!!

[sajjad]

Originally Posted by Mercenary muta is a marriage contract which expires after a set period. Its not allowed in Sunni Islam but is still quite popular amongst Shia. Seems quite a handy solution to todays lifestyle actually!!

quite popular...i know its not
more well known amons shias comparitive to sunni's ....yup probably!

[MecnunK]

Originally Posted by sajjad 4 and i;d like to have the oppurtunity to satisy all four every night ....i think i can!

*lol*

delusions of grandiuer ;)

3 is a good number, which makes me either brave or a fool..probably the latter.. cant we also have slave girls ;)

[sajjad]

Originally Posted by MecnunK Originally Posted by sajjad 4 and i;d like to have the oppurtunity to satisy all four every night ....i think i can! *lol* delusions of grandiuer ;) 3 is a good number, which makes me either brave or a fool..probably the latter.. cant we also have slave girls ;)

so whats wrong with aiming high...! hehe

slave girls...hmm. depends how kinky the 3 wanna be :-D

[MecnunK]

*lol*.. my grand father's cousin had two wives..and I remember him as old misreable and always angry.. His name was Sher Ahmed Khan *lol* and boy was that one grumpy sher.. I think there is a lesson there somewhere but damned if I can see it, the vision of three wives is clouding my mind atm..

[sajjad]

come to think of it
4 wives means 4 possible PMS stricken women to deal with. thats like non stop PMS. i think dealing with 1 is enuf for ne man

[Mercenary]

Originally Posted by sajjad come to think of it 4 wives means 4 possible PMS stricken women to deal with. thats like non stop PMS. i think dealing with 1 is enuf for ne man

that does not bear thinking about!! Nightmare City!!

[sajjad]

yeah...pms man, the downside of women...proves that no ones perfect...


p.s. whered u get that BW pic in ur sig from

[Mercenary]

google

[entralinks]

Thanks heavens, at least human male's aren't that interested in it anymore. But I think animal males are slowly but gradually finding out the reasons behind it as well.

[Schiller]

:oD :oD :oD
4 wives myriad slave girls all together

'wilderness were paradise enow'

[entralinks]

:oD :oD